No Thanks

I needed a break.  I couldn’t handle it anymore.  All of my favorite business, health, and self-help podcasts that usually made me feel inspired, excited, and lifted-up, had left me overwhelmed, deflated, and like I’d never be enough. 

Let’s be honest, there’s a lot of resources out there about how to be a girlboss and achieve your dreams.  There’s constant motivation to keep pushing and grinding and to “do it tired”.  But sometimes, a gal’s gotta nap when she’s tired.  Am I right?  At the same time, there’s also a movement for slowing down, living with less, and finding joy right where you are.

So what happens when you fall between these two lifestyles.  What happens when you’re a girlboss who dreams of growing her business and making an impact who also has a deep desire to take more off her plate, slow down, and appreciate life as it’s unfolding right now! (I’m pointing to myself over here!) 

The closest thing I’ve found to an answer is figuring out what a healthy hustle looks like in my life.  Healthy hustle may be a catchy hashtag but it’s also a really good way to describe finding harmony between your dreams + goals and honoring life right now.  Here’s a few tips that can set you on the right track for finding what your healthy hustle looks like: 

Remember your purpose is multifaceted.  Here’s the thing.  We all have dreams.  We all have things that we’re building, goals we’re working towards, ideas of life that haven’t come to fruition.  That’s part of being human.  Part of what helps us get out of bed in the morning is the opportunity to spend another day working towards our goals.  Maybe it’s home ownership, maybe it’s raising a healthy family, growing a business, baking the perfect apple pie, reaching a health goal.  Whatever it is, our goals and dreams are what gives us purpose.  It’s totally okay to look at your life and know that it’s not where you want to be forever.  But we need to remember that’s only part of our purpose.  The other part is loving well on those around us and living in the life we’re presented every day.  And if we only keep our eyes fixed on the horizon, we’ll miss the field of wildflowers around our feet.  Did you like that metaphor?  But seriously, we need to create the capacity for both gratitude for our current blessings and passion for the dreams we’re working toward.

Nurture your blessings.  I’m going to come right out and say it, there are seasons when I feel really lonely.  Don’t we all know these seasons too well?  Even if we don’t talk about them.  Usually I can correlate those seasons to times when I’m failing to recognize the beautiful gifts in my life.  I get too focused on the unknown details of my future plans, the setbacks I’ve faced, and the long way I have to go and I don’t give enough energy to my family, my friends, my health, and our home.  For me nurturing my blessings looks like spending quality time with my husband every night, whether that’s snuggling on the couch or doing dishes together.  It looks like making the effort to call friends and drive to see family.  It looks like taking the time for baths and making my favorite gf almond pancakes.  It looks like curling up in my favorite corner of our home and reading a book.  What does nurturing your blessings look like for you?

Create a routine that makes space for both.  This is where the magic happens, friend.  And it really is magic because my favorite saying right now is, balance is a unicorn.  So instead of trying to balance it all, let’s instead try to create a routine that makes space for both our passions and our blessings.  This could look like an hour every morning sipping coffee, writing blog posts, and making plans to grow your side-hustle.  It could look like a walk during your lunch break to help you reach your health goal.  Or thirty minutes devoted to meal planning for your family.  And as much as we might want to go crazy chasing after these passions, it’s important to also hold space for nurturing our blessings like we already talked about.  Find a routine that works for you, and know that it will constantly be in flux.   A healthy hustle won’t always look the same, but it will hopefully look like a life in which you’re fulfilled. 

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